Quote: I NEVER criticize her about this. Or about much of anything really. I'm more of the door-mat, let's keep the peace kind of guy. I'm working on that.
Many of us have lived in your world; in fact, many still do. It's nothing short of amazing the debasement we'll put ourselves through in the hopes that if we make our spouses happy and comfortable enough, then they'll want to ML with us. It doesn't work. I don't know what to tell you at this point, but the mindset this quote exemplifies ain't gonna do it.
BTW, I love your location. Just remember, Odysseus did make it through alive. He may have lost a few crewmen, but he made it.