kml:
yup, got her thyroid checked several times. It appears to be fine.

I have been as supportive as i could. I offered several times to go with her to the doctors' visits and have told her on many occasion almost exaclty what you said word for word: "I consider this to be OUR problem, not hers." No luck.

I tried to make her feel loved. She withdrew ven further because she was afraid I wanted to have sex with her (her words) I backed down. (probably shouldn't have)

I NEVER criticize her about this. Or about much of anything really. I'm more of the door-mat, let's keep the peace kind of guy. I'm working on that.

She doesn't really get to reject me sexually 'cause I've pretty much given up on trying. These days I wait until the horny signs come up. I know it's a mistake, and I intend to work on that next. I just need to roll up my sleeves and get back to work.

thanks for the input.

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