yeah, I've been reading a lot of the posts - and that leaves me feeling confused.
See, I never thought of myself as HD, or my wife as LD. Our roles were rather the opposite when we first started dating. She was coming off a bad marriage and we had incredibly good sex at least once a day. She was wild in bed and I usually was the one trying to duck out of it (you can only be late at work so many times because of morning sex before you get fired!) As time went on, my drive stayed pretty constant, to lower (with kids, work, commute, etc.) and hers dropped off completely. I don't know which was the chicken or the egg here - but the end result is that I find myself with an increasingly strong drive (due to near-celibacy, impending MLC ???) and nowhere to go wid' dat thang. So I resent her for that. And that adds up in a big way to all the other little BS we all have to deal with in relationships. I have such dark-colored glasses on right now (metaphorically speaking) that I really don't want anything to do with the woman. I would love nothing more than to be able to turn her down next time she's feeling horny because I have come to feel so used and taken for granted.
I'm a big chicken and while we have talked about the sex problems, I have not come out full-force about exactly how bad this makes me feel. Although I think she has a clue (the last two conversations we had about our marriage, she started by asking me if I wanted a divorce...)
hmmm...where the hell is that "The Complete Idiot's Guide to healthy relationships" anyway?
The differentiation song:
All I want to do
Is be more like me
And be less like you
Linkin Park
