Hey Madfrog. Welcome...sucks to be here, but since you're here, have some doughnuts and coffee. You'll find lots of support...your story is SO familiar.
Main question: Have you told your W that you've got a time limit? That would be something you'd probably want to share with her. That's only 3.5 months away, you know.
Second question: Do you really have an exit strategy, e.g. an apartment picked out, a lawyer picked out, etc.? I ask this last question because she's likely to call BS on you, and, if you can't back it up, it's yet another empty threat for her to throw on the pile. If you are really going to leave (and I'm not saying that's the solution), then you need to get prepared. Otherwise, you're just lying to her.
Hopefully, she'll get hit by lightning and wake up and she'll be a virtual dynamo of sexual energy. But not likely. Of course, don't listen to a thing I say, I'm kind of cynical these days.
