Long time no see...happy to hear your "with-child" news. I keep up, just don't post. But this problem of yours made me think along the lines of "what would Dr. Laura say" route. Not that I agree with everything she touts, but she IS pro-marriage and family.
I hope that you can de-personalize the smoking. I truly don't think your husband is doing this to hurt you in any form or fashion. He is struggling with it like you are. I don't smoke, nor does anyone in my family, but we all have been told how incredibly hard it is to quit. Is there any way that you can agree not to hound him about it and stop feeling like he is trying to hurt you? I bet it may add the extra pressure to him at this point.
and of course, there is the ole Dr. Laura opinion that "he was a smoker when you married him"...don't expect him to change. He obviously knows he needs to quit, but is struggling with it. I know that if someone insisted that I had to lose these awful 30 extra lbs that I am carrying around, I might resent it and therefore it would be even harder to lose it. Even though I know in my heart that it would be the best for myself, my family, my health, my mental disposition, etc.
I don't mean to beat you up on this, but I would hate to see you and your H go to war over this, when you might have a better shot of letting him quit on his own in his own way?
I have 2 kids, so I know how the sense of smell and taste are affected with pregnancy. It does pass. Please don't let this ruin all the progress that you have made in your life over the past year.
