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I told him, look...let me put it like this.

"You have an upset tummy."

Every time I see you, I punch you in the stomach."

His response? "I'm sorry, I'll try harder."

I said: I'm begging you, please just go cold turkey.
what you are doing is making me miserable and isn't working.

PIB,

Have IM's worked for you guys in the past in working through problems? The reason I asked is you know how disasterous they were for D and I.

When he is at work he is very focused on work and anything serious is an interruption.

The message you are sending I understand but I think he could feel sort of attacked or on the defense rather than see your point of view.

Isn't there a way to ask if the two of you can't work together to brainstorm some ideas to deal with this sitch?

Or is this an absolute deal breaker for you?

Just some scattered thoughts this morning.

Pam

"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned
so as to have the life that is waiting for us"