Happy Belated B'day, dude! Sorry it was a "kinda crappy" to "real crappy" day for you.
I think it's very simple, however. Some B'day candles are for celebration, warm feelings, and decoration. Then there are trick candles that are for the benefit of the "cake handlers" at the expense of the B'day boy. They look the same, but one "blows" and the other doesn't. Since your W didn't "blow" on your B'day, she's obviously the trick variety.
