HD said: ----------------- As for telling W about the Ex's email, I just don't know. I really don't think it's wise. -----------------
Your ex is essentially offering her bed to you and you don't think your wife should know?
If someone was offering themselves to my wife, I would damn sure want to know about it. With my past, I make sure I tell her when I get offers. How the hell can she trust me otherwise? I have a history of honesty, at least in that area of my life. I am working on honesty in every area of my life.
Why would your wife trust you? Your ex is already an issue, and you are wanting to start (or continue) to keep secrets about her.
If you don't think it is wise to be upfront and honest with your wife about your ex, then your marriage really is in trouble, and you are going to need help beyond what the folks here are capable of offering.
It is high time you start taking your WIFEs side on the ex-wife issue. The ex is history, and BOTH you and your wife need to make decisions TOGETHER on issues that affect your family.
If honesty buys you some pain, then so be it. In my opinion, honesty will (in almost all cases) buy you less pain than dishonesty.
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
