It's giving me a stomach ache. At first, I was thinking that I should call W up and tell her all about it. However, given that she has reacted so negatively to anything that Ex says or does, I am sure that telling her would be the WRONG thing to do. She would probably feel really threatened. Plus, I remember when my W (before we were married) were going to Jamaica for a week with her family. The night before I left, my Ex showed up in a nice dress, all made up, and tried to "talk sense into me." I mentioned this to my W when I got to Jamaica, and had to deal with her hurt feelings for a day. And that was back when we actually felt passionate for each other.