Looks like I missed the party and all of the festivities. The only thing left is some crumbs for me to pick up.
Here is a 180 that you can do. Tell your wife that you don't want to have sex with her anymore. Why would you want to ML with someone who you have so many angry feelings about? I'm sure you see the contradictions.
You can take a stand by saying that you want to have sex with her but you are through begging. If you want to do things to be a better husband, please do those things, but don't expect sex. If you feel you should speak to W in one of her "love languages", do that, but don't look for a quid pro quo. Being a good husband is an end in itself. It is its own reward.
It is about you and what you want. But your only good way of articulating that is by taking your stand: that you are a sexual person and you want a love life with your wife, but you don't expect it, you are not going to nag, and you're not going to take it with attitude.
Be prepared to love, but don't look for sex. If you don't love her, you have no chance. Even if you do, well, you know what the odds are.
Enough lame advice from yet another blue-balled ignoramus.
Sincerely,
SM, who hasn't gotten layed in 2054 days and is slightly jealous that HD got some mercy sex a couple of weeks ago.
"If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment." Henry David Thoreau
