Nopkins: (avoiding any easy set-ups about my "tool")
I took the step of being here many moons ago. I have taken further steps, thanks in part to the encouragement of my fellow SSMers: 1. trial period of several months of "no pressure" on W for sex. It ended up having no effect, except her telling me that she felt under pressure because she knew I was thinking about it. 2. Me telling her that I want sex one time a week. No response. 3. Me giving her a letter telling her that we need to work on this relationship. Led to big blow up.
So I have taken some steps. They have just not been very productive. Maybe all I've done is just peeked under the hood and rattled some cables and belts and bolts. Maybe it would be nice if there was a friggin' manual for this ol' heap. But there isn't.
Crud...I have to get out of here, and probably won't get to check in until Monday.
Until then, thanks everyone for the help, encouragement, kicks in the pants, etc.
