Happy Effin' Birthday to Me.

[MadFrog]

HD:
that's the rub for me, things tend to become binary if no-one changes.
On the one hand, no-sex Jane
on the other hand, horn-dawg Joe.
In the middle: a rocky relationship.

The eternal question is to find the compromise that will keep everyone happy. Good luck with that - we're all trying here, I think.
Corri: I understand what you are saying, but I still think that the bottom line is that someone, or both, has to change in order to find the "third" solution (not divorce, and not celibacy) By that I mean that people's expectations have to change. HD needs to expect less sex, and his wife should expect more. That sums it up? Or did I miss the point again?

Hairdog, if you're looking for a hobby, I have a great way to make a small fortune (provided you start with a large one): amateur roadracing. I am hooked and blowing what little cash I can spare into trying to drive a slow car fast around a race track that turns both ways... The only time I have ever reached the "wall-socket sex" types of feeling have been while being completely absorbed in the task of driving, and staying alive while hanging on the hairy edge. Food for thought, anyway.