Quote: However, when in a comitted relationship, the actions for my partner affect me. If I am not happy about one of my partner's actions, tell my partner as such and yet the action (or lack of action ) keeps occuring - then what?
That's right. Then what? Who can you control? If the end goal is x, y, z, and your current actions are not getting you the desired result, then what?
Quote: The only solution then is to get rid of the relationship. Isn't it?
Is it? What you are saying here is, I am this way. I want my world to be a certain way. In order for my world to be a certain way, then you (my spouse) need to be this way [insert definition here]. Okay.
If the above statement is true, and you give your spouse the same freedom to make such a statement, and the two don't match, then what? Are you wrong? Is the spouse?
What choices do you have? What is more important? Being who you are, right now, as it, or getting what you want? Because right now, you know that you cannot have both -- being who you are at this minute AND having what you want. Your presence here proves it.
Ahhh... but if you can get your spouse to change and agree with you, you could in fact have both.... just wondering, is that working for you?
