Happy Effin' Birthday to Me.

[MJontheMend]

If sex is so necessary to you, go out and get it. Yet you hesitate to do so, because you do not like what that image of doing just that means to you.

I agree. That is why I vowed that I am going to have sex on my 40th birthday. I don't like the image of me being pathetic and sexless on my birthday more than I don't like the image of me telling my H that I am sure someone else will oblige as I head out the door. Of course, the fact that I am confident enough in my sexual identity to do this is what makes it less likely that I will actually have to do this.

I used to tutor older adults who hadn't completed high school in math. An odd thing I noticed was that it was hard to teach certain concepts to older students. For instance, I couldn't convince one woman that negative numbers existed. IMO in order to do PM, you have to do the sexual/emotional equivalent of subtracting a negative number to get a positive result. It's counter-intuitive unless you visualize yourself "undigging a hole".