Quote: I thought about it some more and I realized that not only do I expect H to be kind and generous to me on my birthday; I expect it of him every single day. Otherwise, what does that say about what I think of myself?
I simply cannot bring myself to think that everything he does for me should be regarded as a gift and that there is never a time when expecting anything from your mate is acceptable.
Only you can decide if you are happy or not, and only you can decide what to do about it. Expectations merely project personal preference, and that's all they do.
