Maybe I should hang out a shingle and call myself a "Communications Consultant". That should be innocuous enough to draw all those LDs in.
Some LDs have some serious issues to work through before they can begin to see that sexuality and sensuality are a good thing. I do hope that your W gets to that point.
Nymph
I don't mind the sun sometime
The images it shows
I can taste you on my lips
And smell you in my clothes
Cinnamon and Sugar
And softly spoken lies
You never know just how you look
Through someone elses eyes
BHS-"Pepper"
No, typically she'll buy 7 or 8 or 9 gifts, and then the kids pick out "which one they want to be from them," and then three or four of 'em end up being from her (we have four children).
But there's NO thought that goes into what I would like; the thought is more what would THEY prefer seeing me HAVE.
For my last bday, I told him I wanted him to take me to see a movie I wanted to see. The reason I had to ask for this on my bday is he will never go see a movie that I picked otherwise. He wouldn't even think about getting me a cake so usually I make one so that the kids don't feel deprived of bday fun.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
Choco - I think you and NewChris and I need to go out to a bar this weekend and get good and drunk. I actually called up one of my friends to see if he was up for going out this weekend, but he will be out of town. I feel the need to get out.
CE, I can't think of a time when I was more serious!
I don't mind the sun sometime
The images it shows
I can taste you on my lips
And smell you in my clothes
Cinnamon and Sugar
And softly spoken lies
You never know just how you look
Through someone elses eyes
BHS-"Pepper"
I hear the bartenders in you neck of the woods mix up a mean "Screaming Orgasm"!
I don't mind the sun sometime
The images it shows
I can taste you on my lips
And smell you in my clothes
Cinnamon and Sugar
And softly spoken lies
You never know just how you look
Through someone elses eyes
BHS-"Pepper"
Quote: Q: If all expectation of any form had been absent, what kind of day would it have been?
A: As I told my son, it would have just been a kinda crappy day.
Is 'crappy' not another form of expectation? Meaning, who decided it was crappy? What did you expect to happen to make it good that did not happen that made it crappy?
Quote: But sometimes it seems that no matter what I say or do, it's not going that direction. Do you happen to think that I enjoy this state of affairs? If so, why?
No, I most definitely do not think you enjoy this. It seems to me you suffer greatly. The reason I asked you, "do you think your situation does not change because you don't want it to?" is because your efforts show that you would rather have your actions influence the actions and attitudes of others (have sex with me, be happy for me), i.e., have others change to suit YOUR perception, rather than do what is most difficult, and change yourself. Not changing to get others to do what you want or need, but allowing others to be as they are, and you simply be who you are.
If sex is so necessary to you, go out and get it. Yet you hesitate to do so, because you do not like what that image of doing just that means to you. So, if you can get your wife to change, and your kids to be happy, you no longer have to examine the inner world of hairdog.
In other words, what happens 'out there' influences what goes on 'in here.' By living as such, you are at the mercy of events over which you have no control.
Expectations are projected perceptions, and they are your perceptions alone. Others have their own perceptions. Power struggles ensue when there is issue over who's perception is correct. And really, you are fighting in a domain that does not exist, over something which you have no control. No one does.
I am suggesting that your life does not change simply because you don't want to take charge of it. You do not want to define Who You Are, you are unwilling to proclaim What You Want, and then you get angry because others are not doing it for you.
Now, before you get angry at me, just think about it for awhile. See what is below the anger, and why when I say this, does it cause you to be angry? What does anger mask? Fear. What self-perception is causing the fear?
Who has the power to change the perception? And when the perception is changed, then what?
I propose that these are questions you cannot answer because you are too busy figuring out how to get your wife to change so you don't have to. I most certainly can be wrong.
Every day is special, Hairdog. Every single day, and it's the only one you've got. It isn't up to someone else to make it that way, it is up to you, because it's your day, not anyone elses.
