Corri:
Do you really think this is possible? To not have ANY form of expectation on a special day such as a birthday?

I think expecting sex on your birthday is an iffy thing and yet expecting that they will be kind and generous to you is only fair, imo.

I suppose I just don't see how to separate expectations on special occasions, when the implication is that this day will be all about YOU, the birthday celebrant.

Do you?