Hairydoggiestyle: "Why should I do anything for her? She's just a roommate." Because she's your W. You need another reason? Don't get me started.
Quote: The problem is, when we do decide to take the first step to stop the downhill slide, and the second step, and the third (in other words, we do exactly what they ask us to do), they still don't kick in with their half of the deal. So they relegate themselves back to roommate status.
That's because it's all about YOU, the HD partner. Don't you get that from your W all the time? We try to make things better for us, and then in the heat of argument, it becomes a selfish all-about-us thing. It almost makes ya want to give up, right?