Hey, I'm PA too! When I have a good EC going, I'm one way... and when the EC is a distant memory, I'm another way. Heaven forbid the W make an effort to maintain the EC and keep us from going into PA mode!
I hate that "I'm so tired" stuff!! What a crock of sh*t. My W does that to me all the time. It's like a signal from her to me... in my head, it translates to "don't initiate anything with me tonight" and "leave me alone." Besides the physical, this includes conversation on ANY level. I don't dare ask her to remember anything when she's in this "so tired" state of mind. FRUSTRATING!!
Thank goodness for kids. They're a good sanity-restorer (mostly). That hand-on-the-side thing is something that my W does too. Sometimes, I just want to remove it from my side and roll over. You know where THAT would go... downhill into an argument, real fast!
So, what do ya do to make it through the days when she's too tired? I keep myself busy with cleaning up and such (dishes, laundry, kids' stuff) and avoid W until I have to. I refuse to comiserate with her.
vent vent vent... darn, you got me doing it now too!
