Thanks annette and HP. I did apologize for not consulting with her about picking up DS15. As it turned out, my initial concern (being late in picking him up) was wrong. I had time to drop her off and make it to school to pick him up.
I hadn't thought of her behavior surrounding the birthday as PA. I just don't think that way. Instead, I just think it's rude and thoughtless. If PA = rude and thoughtless, then this makes a bit more sense. I guess I need to do some more work on understanding PA. Maybe a major part of this fight was her "projecting" her PA onto me. Why does this have to be so hard? In the words of Rodney King, "Why can't we all just get along?"
