HD, Do you listen and discuss and consider and appreciate her?
Does she have a point?
It sounds like a cross between Words of Affirmation and QT to me, for what it's worth. I know that Corri has said that this is her LL too. She wants in depth conversations with her H as well as his time invested in the convo and to feel that he thinks she has something worthwile to say. This sounds like what your W is after.
I don't know, Hairy. I would be sorely tempted to call her on her PA birthday celebration for you. If THAT isn't PA, then I don't know what is. The entire time, from the "I don't want to get you a cake" to the yawning during dinner was a clear-but-passive way of saying, I hope you don't think this day is special to ME in any way.
As far as what you did, yeah, it was passive aggressive. I would straight up admit that to her (cause she will get worse and worse until you do) and apologize to her for not saying anything. Tell her that you were highly disappointed in her behavior on your birthday and her request to be dropped off (putting her own needs first and inconveniencing you on your bday) was the final straw.
Wish it had gone better; we were all rooting for you!
