Happy Effin' Birthday to Me.

[MJontheMend]

I think you were right to back off on the baking a cake issue. I'm a good baker and I usually make a cake for my H's birthday but if I'm really busy it can be tricky since baking a cake is something you can't do too far beforehand. On the other hand, my H is perfectly happy with a purchased cake or even just candles in a lasagne. If he ever indicated that a homemade cake would be super special, I would certainly figure out how to manage it. I don't understand her comment about taking you out to dinner. What is the other option? Either she will have to cook you a b-day dinner or she expects you to cook dinner on your b-day.