Annette said: ------------------- I could probably become one of those that just doesn't do anything and live the rest of my life like this until I crack. I don't think thats fair to me or him. I just haven't come to a decision -------------------
Annette.
I suggest that you find a couple of days where you can get away - by yourself - so that you can think about your situation unencumbered. Make sure you carry pen and paper so that you can list out problems and potential solutions. Then prioritize the list since you can't possibly address every issue at once.
Spend the first day just letting your emotions settle.
Tell your husband what your plans are for the mini-getaway. This puts him on notice that changes are in the wind.
"Hubby, I have to get away for a few days to sort through my part in the issues our relationship is facing. Don't worry, there is no other person involved, I just need to be alone for a few days so that my head can clear."
Pick a peaceful and quiet place and a time where the weather will be good for a few days. Make sure that the place you pick will offer enough privacy for you to think out loud, without someone overhearing and thinking you are nuts for talking to yourself :-)
You DO have to come to a decision. There is simply no way you can fall through to the right change in your relationship.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
