For a long time I was a lot like your husband. I could nit-pick on my wife all the live-long day. I know that the lack of intimacy we are now experiencing was at least half my fault. She became a nitpicker in response. Nowadays I try to catch myself when an unpleasantness bubbles up from the unconscious.
After reading books like SSM I decided that I could improve our relationship even if only I was interested in making an effort at it. I actually believe it will improve, and there is mounting evidence that it already is.
I don't know what my point is, except that people can change if they want to.
P.S. Can't H at least shave off the mustache? Does he know that it would make it easier for him to please you?
Paul, whose W won't tolerate any facial hair on her H.
