Don't feel bad, Mer - mine will sit on the potty, but hasn't really done much in it yet. Baby steps, right?
D5 sounds like a precious handful...I am really glad she has you for a mom, Mer.
GD1- That's the first time anyone has ever said "congrats on saving your marriage." I guess I don't think of it that way, because it's only been (omg, Pam is RIGHT - where does the time go!) 5 months since the last big upheaval. My H's and I's relationship has completely changed!
If not for forgiveness, I would definitely not have a marriage right now. There were points where I questioned the wisdom of even trying to forgive, much less saving my marriage. I had to forgive the big things, like OW's, and the small things, like my H's absent-mindedness, habit of being late, and occasional episode of COMPLETE insensitivity (like the day he said a 19-year-old hadn't taken care of her skin and she looked like she was MY age - before you guys decide he is a total jerk, he meant that she looked at least 4 to 5 years older than she did, but that is NOT how I took it).
Forgiveness, especially concerning the infidelity, is a choice I make over and over again. The feelings and the pain are still there, but the anger is not there most of the time. Once in a while it tackles me out of nowhere, and I have to forgive all over again, but it is worth it. I am FINALLY starting to feel like a solid family. I am beginning to feel secure in my marriage, even. Not so much that I take it for granted, or that I don't recognize a need for improvement, but it does feel pretty safe. My H has definitely done some serious growing up, so I don't take credit for all the marriage-saving here.
I love this dialogue on forgiveness! Keep it up, ladies!
Myrrh
One moment of patience may ward off great disaster. One moment of impatience may ruin a whole life.
