Pamela C...I hope that you will still lurk, if not post Thank you for the affirmations (my love language and something I rarely received in my marriage).
I don't think you are blunt, tho i find blunt so very refreshing after years of living with a man who learned some pretty strong p/a defense mechs along the way. Yes, a person who says what she really feels is absolutely refreshing!
I don't post my own thread anymore...old news really...but I sometimes creep in to read about our Bets and a few on MLC and Surviving. I do post often on Just for Fun...my new one is VACATIONS!

I think I understand how hard DB ing is...I tried my best for 2 years, forgave EVERYTHING and took blame for 100% of the breakdown of the marriage. Ironic that my husband believed every word of the 100% blame and offer of forgiving...and then told people I was crazy and controlling and manipulative and lest I forget, that I tried to poison him. I think I turned all 4 cheeks ( ) about 40 times...it was almost as if he felt:see even she admits SHE screwed up our marrige. Sometimes you get the bar and sometimes the bar gets you i guess.

I admire your hard work and the ability to DB without any affirmations from your H....I remember that the book 5 love languages says that sometimes it takes years to fillthose empty tanks. But I think your story, far from being seen as bragging, would give hope to lots of those newbies out there who are still dumbfounded at their sitch. We all like happy endings!!!

Pen...hope that you are going on hiatus from Piecing only because you too are taking care of your marriage and committments. I know the people here will miss your sage advice and help.

Bets...hope all turns out well tomorrow. Do take time to reread the post on MLC tho. I really didn't see that there was namecalling much different from sharks and fishies and ...damn it girl, I still haven't seen Finding Nemo!!!!

Take care all...I think I will stick to Just for Fun for awhile...I get into a lot less trouble that way!
gd