Quote: I really don't think Mr. Wonderful has regained his feelings for me. If he had, he would have been attempting to date me before I had really made the decision to move on. And he certainly wouldn't have told me a week ago that he vacillates between wanting to divorce and wanting to reconcile. Being the lesser of 2 evils is not my idea of fun... When he told me that he would choose me as a tribute to our many years together (read: living for the future in the past), I really knew that we were destined to be platonic friends.
You know, sometimes they don't realize how much they love us until they see they are about to lose us - in much the same way that many of us LBSs didn't fully appreciate our spouses until they were gone. And my H's explanation of it, he was scared to feel that love he had for me, because he was afraid to go back into our old lives where he had been so depressed, scared that I wouldn't be able to forgive him, scared of feeling the pain of rejection - once he opened those floodgates, he went from "I just don't think I can get those feelings back" to "I treasure and adore you" in about six weeks!
