Diving back into the ocean

[Underdog]

Ellie,

Good point! I do hope that others can benefit from dropping the rope and eliminating expecting anything from their WAS. It really DOES work, and as I mentioned last week, he figured out exactly when I had made the decision to move on.

I would like to differentiate something in my own course, though. I really don't think Mr. Wonderful has regained his feelings for me. If he had, he would have been attempting to date me before I had really made the decision to move on. And he certainly wouldn't have told me a week ago that he vacillates between wanting to divorce and wanting to reconcile. Being the lesser of 2 evils is not my idea of fun... When he told me that he would choose me as a tribute to our many years together (read: living for the future in the past), I really knew that we were destined to be platonic friends.

Anyway, Ellie, rest assured any man who makes it past the initial barrier is worth his salt. I consider my D7 to be a great character test, and since we are a package deal, weeding out unsuitable candidates is made much simpler. Besides, any R I have going forward is going to be slow and focusing on the friendship and fun aspects of a healthy R. I really, really need friendship as a foundation--the rest will eventually take care of itself.

And quite frankly, it's time to start having fun again. Every drama has a comedy and a tragedy to it. The tragedy has played itself out as far as it can go, and I see comedy in my future.

I've learned so much about myself over the past 2 years, and those are the qualities I seek in a potential mate.

I try to put a caveat emptor in my posts to keep people aware that they may not feel comfortable making the choices I've made. It's really tough to let go of the rope. But in my case, I finally see that I'm just doggone happy that I've landed on 2 feet with my head, heart and soul intact and with infinite possibilities for a happy future.

Damn, is life good or what?

Just keep swimming!

Betsey