Funny - I was going to post to you last week that I figured your H would regain those feelings for you pretty quickly as soon as he saw you dating.

Of course, you are totally within your rights to move on - it has been forever, after all - but certainly you can see why he's not happy. He finally mentions reconciliation, you turn around and tell him you want a divorce, and now he finds out you are dating.

Please understand - i am in NO WAY saying you should take him back - you have been through enough to know and make up your own mind about whether he could ever meet your needs or repair this damage. I'd just like to point out to others reading that this is why it is a good idea to try giving the APPEARANCE of dating a try - before you are so burned out and involved with another person so that you don't want to go back. Almost all WAHs seem to have this response when they see (or think) their wives are dating - so why not give them the opportunity to come to this conclusion BEFORE it is too late for them???

(Again, Betsey, don't think I mean this for you - you've been extraordinarily patient with this man - and you deserve any happiness you can find with anyone you want Just make sure he's worthy of you )

Ellie