Quote: Sometimes you have to just BE and LIVE without trying so hard to get somewhere, meet goals or achieve progress.
A big AMEN to that, sister! OK... so there's my excuse for lounging on my deck in the (long lost) SUN for the rest of the afternoon.
Quote: I won't lie to you, because once I refused to play the roles everyone expected of me, I became the enemy. I was considered combative and hardened just because I refused to continue to allow my parents to play victims with my brother, and to enable my 36 year old brother to continue hurting us as a family with his horrid choices, behaviors and lies.
Yikes... you just described my H's family to a T. We can see the patterns-- can't stop them, but for sure can stop participating in them.
Cathy, your road is not an easy one. It's the one my mother walked as well. I know intimately how hard it is. You just have to just keep checking in honestly with yourself along the way and asking what is right for you and for your son-- those are the answers that matter.
