Ah, Betsey. Good to have you around. Tears rolling down my cheek, I will try to get my brief response on board.
I echo the thoughts of others...I definitely think that you are a pathlighter and I am hopeful that we are able to give you feedback and support that is useful. Maybe just journaling itself can be helpful to you.
What a gift for D10 to be finally able to unburden herself. She has carried that little secret around for too long. And hopefully, though she has discovered that her Dad has feet of clay, he may be able to develop a new relationship with her now and restore some trust and respect. I am certain that seeing that you are strong and are at peace with your choice will help her to forgive him.
LIFE IS TOO REAL SOMETIMES, isn't it?
Glad you are back. Glad you are here for us. BUT NO MARTYRDOM HERE.... Insist on getting back (from us) what you are able to give. Maybe not at the same db level, but certainly we are all able to support one another from wherever we are on our journey.