Chris. I am not trying to give you a hard time.

I want you to realize that a great relationship requires a lot of effort. They normally don't just happen. Effort requires time.

I do think that in your case, a lot of effort on your part will be seen by your wife.

Whether or not you think she is paying attention, let her know what your goals for the relationship are, then start working on them. Be consistent. She will notice.

You may have told me already, but refresh my memory. Has your wife read TSSM or other relationship books? Also, I think there is one out called Surviving an Affair ( not sure). If you haven't already, you might consider purchasing several books and making them available to your wife.

All the best,
-NOPkins-

I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.

-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect.
-An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.