Quote: What do you do when W does these things that make you irritated, such as undermine what you are saying to the kids, etc?
I used to stuff it away until I blew up at her. These days, I am speaking up without caring how she reacts because I don't want to stuff it away. Most of the time, she doesn't have a reaction to my words. The "shoe is on the other foot" so to speak, and I fully expect HER to blow up at ME one of these days.
Yesterday was a good example. I was, according to my W, "pissy and rude" to my parents and inlaws as we were finishing my birthday brunch at a restaurant. What happened was... I wanted to get up and leave the table because I was tired of sitting there with nothing left to say, and the room was getting loud as everyone had finished brunch and was talking. So, I said, "I'm going to go sit in the lobby and wait for everyone because it's too loud in here." Then I got up and started to leave, but D6 and D2 jumped on me and wanted to go with me, so then everyone got up also.
In the car on our way back home, W said, "you were really short with your parents... and the way you just got up and said what you said was a little rude." I told her that I was not intending to be rude or pissy, that I was only speaking my mind instead of sitting there and not saying anything and waiting for everyone else to feel like leaving. W seemed to be ok with that answer because she didn't say anything in response.
So, as usual, I am left to wonder... did my W just not want to pursue an argument, or was she satisfied with my response? I have no idea. I don't feel like asking either.
