Quote: I find myself thinking like you, that I have cooled my desire for sex after reading PM. However, my desire for the wife is what has dropped, not my desire for sex.
I think that was what I was trying to get at in my reply. As I started down this path, I saw my desire for sex with W waning - not my overall level of desire, just the desire for her. As things have been changing, that desire is coming back, but it's different in a way I can't really describe. I guess it's just that having let go of the other-validation stuff, it just changed the whole perspective.
