Speaking up - here we go

[MJontheMend]

But recognizing your husband's efforts (and progress) to please you and being understanding of his natural shortcomings can also be acts of integrity if they are done out of your love for him

I know. This is why I still have a problem. How much of my sexual personal identity can I sacrifice in order to maintain my sense of myself as a loving, giving person. In the past, my answer was "just about all of it". I'm just trying to figure out what my new answer might be.