Yes I have read SSM. I think right now, PM is much more beneficial. SSM seems to be more geared toward a couple who's main problem is lack of ML, or who are working on things together. I see it as sort of an exersize book for PM.
I'm almost all the way through PM. I'm sure I'll go back and read over certain parts again.
I don't have too much problems in coming up with things to talk about. I really don't want it to turn into me listing off 'issues'...I really think we need to find a way to relate as two adults, without worrying about R issues, to find a way to rebuild the EC. There are things that need to be discussed, but nothing's going to get resolved if neither realizes the other is interested in listening.
MM, I agree that we could probably benefit from the hugging exersize.
That brings me to a question I brought up a while ago - is it possible to do this exersize if H doesn't know that's what we're doing? I don't think he'll be too receptive to 'exersizes' at this point. At one point during the discussion last night, he refered to the 'books I ordered which must be giving me some idea of what to do'. I told him he was more than welcome to read them, and he made it very clear he had no intentions of reading them.
