Quote: So in spite of getting somewhere with the conve, I still feel sort of left in the cold as to how to progress. I guess right now I just continue working on me, and being pleasant, and hoping that at some point H notices?
Yes, continue to work on you. Be pleasant - and don't make snippy comments when H says something to instigate an argument. Be aware, though, that it may be months before H notices, and it may be several more months before H acknowledges that he notices. This may not do well with your patience.
I find that writing down "discussion topics" helps me to organize my talks with my W. I keep these in a journal in my briefcase, where W won't find them and confront me about them in a mean or angry way. I have stopped short of writing a letter to W since the letter idea doesn't seem to work too well (it would give W something to throw in my face, if she wanted to, and she would probably misinterpret my words). So, I write down short ideas that could turn into discussions. Maybe that would work for you too?
Did you buy the Sex-Starved Marriage book? If so, have you started reading it? It does help give new ideas and meanings to things in your M. How are you doing with PM?
