Quote: H came down later, and announced 'I'm going to leave my cup on the counter because I can't figure out your system of loading the washer, and I don't want to have to take everything out and start again'.
I really feel this statement is symbolic of what's going on sexually for you. He is leaving his "cup" out because he can't figure " you" out, and doesn't want to do the work to " start again."
In no way do I view you as a dishwasher!
I think part of the reason you get so upset is that you have your own mixed feelings of digging in and rearranging things knowing what you are up against ( you have posted this feeling before).
Don't "allow" the household stuff to throw you off balance. The only way to get your emotional/sexual needs met is to confront, confront, confront. I know it's exhausting, but you know way too much now to throw in the towel. I wish I had recognized sooner that my kids, although a constant source of pleasure and distraction, are not enough to complete me in my home...I am a woman too.
