I think you have hit the nail on the head. I am sorry that I didn't catch this before as it is quite obvious. Fear is your biggest enemy.
I am not list crazy, but they are very handy tools for thinking through situations that are difficult to hold in detail in your brain.
Make a list of issues you fear most in your relationship. Beside each fear, list what is really likely to happen in reality, then the worst case and best case scenarios. After you have finished the list, revisit each item and write what you would like to happen with each item.
Give the worksheet to your husband and ask him to comment on each item.
Just an idea, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
