IMO, the problem with "date night" is that the LD "uncommitted" spouse blows it off too regularly in favor of some selfish activity (reading or watching TV or sleeping). This leads the HD spouse to feel like a failure. A night reading PM or SSM instead of pretending to enjoy LD spouse's company is more fulfilling in many cases.
I know that "date night" works sometimes, and maybe I'm just a pessimist at heart. Gotta try SOMETHING different when nothing familiar is working, right?
