Chris... I am also rooting for Kathy/Heap to get f**ked after so many yrs, but the one shot deal that will miraculously straighten it all out is just a fantasy ( it is a nice fantasy though).
More practically speaking, what seemed to get things on track for me after a long period of sexual avoidance and chaos was the weekly date night thing. We made a commitment to relate to each other in a more man/woman way on that nite, and while we both botched it up in different ways (and still do), we have a structure in place to confront and deal with our sex issues. It's awkward and difficult in the beginning, but it's a great way to start. IHJ
