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I know, for myself, that there are days that I enjoy giving my W and D6 and D2 everything that they want... and there are days that I wish that everyone would leave me alone so I can do what I want to do (IOW I want to be selfish and have MY way for a change, if only for a day). I can hear my W say, "but I never get to do that... why should you?" Well, I feel entitled to it after servicing the family for days on end. Yes, I said entitled... selfish as that may be. I don't understand why she can't feel similarly and be selfish once in a while, but maybe that's not a "mom thing."




I actually kind of agree with you Chris. I think that part of what I am trying to do in order to be less of a "mom" to my H is to be more of a kid myself. This is why I mentioned on my thread that I thought that it would be a good thing for my H to see me going to a Pixies concert in downtown Detroit dressed in a sexy outfit. I don't fit anybody's image of a mom if I'm doing something like that. I bet your W could benefit from a bit more 'fun" in her life too. Why don't you encourage her to not feel guilty about casting off her "mom" role and coming out to play.

That said, the fact of the matter is we are all adults with adult responsibilities so most of the time we have to behave like adults, so my ultimate goal has to be to treat my H like an adult rather than to let myself behave like a child. Shucks.

"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver