Boy, you really held onto yourself in a BIG way. I'm proud of you .
Your H is a big time foot dragger. He used every trick in the book to throw you off track. Correcting your grammer? I'm assuming you were speaking English, too. But, believe it or not, I think you saw signs of incremental, but positive, movement on his part.
Mojo is advocating that you drop the sex bomb on him. MM, I haven't tried this yet. If I did, my W might say "Go ahead and try to pick someone up" with the full knowledge that my odds of success were slim to none. After all, someone once said I looked like Danny Devito. You, Heapmom, have more success with this approach than I would. You might not feel comfortable with this approach, though.
Whenever he commits any kind of warmth for you and the kids, you might want to look for opportunities to compliment him, even though his actions seem like such small measures on his part, and you are still light years away from where you want to be. Believe it or not, his saying 'Goodnight sweetie' to you might have been a huge step for him. If you give him some positive reinforcement, then he knows that changes that he makes will actually make things better for him.
Congratulation, and I salute your enormous act of courage in the face of your anchor of a husband.
SM
"If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment." Henry David Thoreau
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