I'm not sure myself whether or not I would leave, but I do think it would strenghten me if I did have an 'escape plan'.
I don't have duel citizenship, it's only been fairly recently that both countries would allow that, but it really doesn't affect my getting a job (as much as the economy might).
Yes, the state would take care of us if something happened to H, but I would like to have more than that to fall back on. It also 'scares' me a little that since H has been handling all the finances, if something ever did happen, I'd be very lost for a while.
I talked for a while, and need to do something now that the kids are getting older, about getting another job in a few years anyway - up 'till now this has been as close to 'having it all' as I can imagine, I work afternoons, so the kids have never had to get up early to get out (until school anyway :-) ). When the girls were little, I had a 5 min walk to work, and H's cousin watched the kids for an hour or so 'till he got home.
Now my commute is much longer, the job has grown, and the kids are at school...in order for me to get something in music that would fit the kid's schedule, I'll need to get my 'name' out more, which is going to take some work.
Of course, I can always take extra private students, start getting more gigs, etc...
