Chris, about 'personal space' - of course it wasn't an issue way back when...and it shouldn't be an issue now, I just threw it out as a possible explanation for why he gets so squirmish about any kind of touch. He has always been squirmish about PDA, and kissing anywhere, even in the very beginning.
I can't imagine holding out 'till the kids are grown if things really don't improve - the boys are only 4, so that gives me 14yrs, and I'm 40... So, if I throw out, say 5 yrs, I'm going to have to have a good reason why I chose that (ok, it's a nice round no.), and a plan - 'cause H will very likely call me on it (I can hear him saying 'how do you plan to do that!'). Even if he doesn't, I want to be ready just in case.
H has not completely ignored me today. We're both still on vacation, so H slept in 'till 12 (as usual on days off), then we've been busy reorganizing the kid's rooms. He did reach over last night and rub my shoulder and say goodnight before he turned off the light. A little thing, but it does tell me he's thinking.
