I agree with Chris that moving out of the bedroom is a bad idea. My best suggestion is for you to do what worked for me. Tell your H your honest opinion about the future of your relationship if things don't change. I told my H that I couldn't imagine the two of us continuing on alone together once the children were gone if things didn't improve. Theoretically, this gave him 5 years in which to drag his feet, but realistically he knew he had to face up to the situation immediately.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
