Quote: her only hope to regain any form of sexuality is HRT -she will not undergo this process for any reason.
Are you sure she wouldn't do this if she knew the alternative was losing you?
Quote: I need to deal with my sexual and touch needs on my own.
I don't quite understand this. Does she want you to MB or see a call girl or what?
Quote: I am interested in the comments of the form readers as to whether it really is possible for a "HD" spouse to truly love, without a certain degree of resentment, a ND spouse.
I think you could truly love and accept a ND spouse for who they are, but you would still be miserable because you weren't having or anticipating having sex.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver