Quote: For instance, both you and I have recently been successful in losing some weight. As I'm sure you know the odds of successfully losing weight and keeping it off over time are pretty slim.
Pun intended? This is a good comparison, although LD spouses will have a hard time relating to it because obesity is a matter of life and death, whereas sex is not. This is why we sometimes don't get any movement unless we cast low sex drive as a matter of life or death for the marriage.
Quote: "You are morbidly obese and I am not happy being married to someone who is morbidly obese, because I would like to be able to engage in physical activities with my spouse and I would like to have a spouse who cares enough to want to appeal to me physically. I can not believe that you are happy with the current situation yourself and I truly believe you could lose some weight if you care about yourself and our relationship. I will do everything possible to support your efforts, but I will no longer stand by and encourage this behavior with my silence or denial."
This is really the PM mantra for the HD spouse, isn't it? Just replace "obesity" for "not enough sex" or whatever behavior you can no longer live with. It is our manifesto.
FWIW, if you had been married to someone like me, you might have never lost the weight. Some good can result from the pain.
SM
"If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment." Henry David Thoreau
