In response to your observations, I am on the verge of becoming one of those bitter 50 year old men you referred to. In my case, I have a highly successful career, great kids, great friends, excellent health but the prospect of a sexless marriage until I pass on in another 50 years.
The other day my wife explained to me that when we ML now(two or three times a year), she grits her teeth, closes her eyes and counts the number of thrust - hopng it will all be over quickly. I am totally conflicted at this point since the act of ML for her is on the same level as having a root canal. Why would anyone have any pleasure ML to someone who really detested the act? On the other hand, I can not help my need for some kind of sex life and having my touch needs met. My wife suggests that I fly solo in the sex department, but this is extremely unsatisfying at age 50. But what about touch needs - this remains unclear.
Solid Mechanic, in response to your observation it is hard not to turn bitter at the situation - I know my wife does love me and that she can not help her inability to have any desire.
The question is, can I truly love my wife if an important part of my happiness equation, which I feel I can only have with a wife or committed partner, is missing? Can I change my happiness equation so that the sex/touching part of the equation is less important? I am struggling with how to accomplish this and not become totally bitter.
