Quote: I couldn't deny or repress my HD nature without damaging my mental health. I felt as I neared midlife that I might have to give up my marriage in order to have any chance of quality of life as I aged
Yes, I have those feelings. I'm 45 now, and for the most part I missed out on sex in my 20's, my 30's, and the first half of my 40's. I'm guessing I've had sex about 20-25 times in my life, and I have a real sense of loss about that.
I do feel strongly that my wife IS my wife, and I'm not the kind of guy who could have a meaningless affair. If I had an affair, it would become meaningful, and I can't afford that.
